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Man opens up how being sexually assaulted at 13 impacted his marriage .

A twitter lady has narrated how her driver opened to to her about how he was sexually molested when he was a teenager.

According to the lady, the man disclosed that he started having

sex at the tender age of  13  explained it greatly  affected his life choices and marriage  along the run.

Read her lengthy post

“The Indriver that carried me today is 41 years old. He told me he

started having sex at 13. I call it rape cuz that’s what I believe

that older woman did to him. His wife left him 2 years ago after 6

years of marriage. She was pregnant with their third child, and

she left with all the kids. He told me she left because he cheated.

He started cheating after just 3 months of marriage. He

confessed to her and she told him to do some STDs test and not

touch her for the next 3 months. That made matters worse to

him. He said he has a high libido but his wife didn’t like sex. He

married

her as a virgin and their first sex happened about a month after

their wedding. He was a nymphomaniac (not sure the English

word for the male version of this) before getting married but he

thought he’d be faithful to his wife.

He realized he was stupid to think that a little too late, he

acknowledged this to me. Yesterday alone, he had sex with 4

ladies. He had sex this morning too and showed me texts from

two women begging him to come and sleep with them again. He

has exes in relationships coming to get serviced by him. His HMO covers his sexual health needs and he always

uses a condom. I told him this was a problem and he needs to

block these women. He kept laughing. He sounded and seemed

stuck. He had sex with his ex-wife last in May (she called him to

come coded-ly) and he was so sure she hasn’t had sex again

since then. He also said she was whack in bed. He believes sex

should be had everyday.

When I told him he’s “living the life”, he said that’s what everyone

says. His wife wanted to be a reverend sister. But she told him

that reverend fathers came at night to ask them for sex and she

couldn’t deal so she left. She has 3 sisters and they all got

married before her, including the last born. She’d had bad luck

with men so when she met her ex-husband

(our Indriver today), she just rushed into marriage. He said they

only dated for like 6 months and she “pressured” them into

marriage. They didn’t get to know each other much before tying

the knot. He believes that was part of their major problems. He

says he also lost his job and had financial issues at the time she

left him so those contributed as well. He insists she’s stubborn,

unromantic and never believes she’s wrong. He still pays his

children’s school fees although it comes late sometimes.

He does a number of contributions to meet up though, cuz he’s an

Indriver and the school fees of his three kids add up to about

150k. He enjoyed the conversation with me and took my number

to keep in touch while he continued with his work and I dropped

at my co-working space too. This was a shocking, intriguing,

kinda scary chat – different from any I’ve ever had. But guys, this

is beyond me. From a Christian POV, I’m dumbfounded and

confused on how to advise him. And even just as a human being,

I really think he needs help. This is crazy and I told him. He kept

laughing. It’s a matter of time before he meets and sleeps with

 

karishika. Meanwhile, some STDs don’t know the face of condom o.

Moral lessons, please:
– stop raping children, or anyone at all

– don’t marry a person you don’t know, date please – don’t marry

out of peer pressure
– be sexually attracted to your future partner before marriage (I did not say test run o, mbok)
– churches, add proper sex ed to your marriage counselling sessions
– don’t allow anyone pressure you into early sex, especially as a minor
– read up on vaginismus, many women experience painful sex

and I believe it’s due to societal/ religious conditioning that

associates shame/pain with female bodies and sex.”

driver