Giving up on someone who used to mean everything to you at some point is
one of the most difficult things to do but notwithstanding we all at some
point must have been faced with this tough decision.
Changes in communication and inability to communicate effectively with each
other, Lack of Trust, Growth at times, Depression, Loss of attraction,
ingenuity or the emergence of a new person behind the scene could all serve
as contributory factors.
Either you are the initiator of the breakup or you are at the other end,
moving on has to be one of the most difficult things to do.
This article seeks to help you navigate this period and ensure your actions
during this period would not cause any further damage to your mental health
seeing that the news the breakup is enough mental and emotional pain for
one person to live with.
What are these steps to take after a breakup?
1. Allow yourself to grieve: yes, allow yourself to grieve and grow through
the pain. Miss them for as long as you need to and do not be in a hurry to
replace this once amazing partner you had as doing so would only make you
an emotionally damaged person seeking love from wherever a glimpse of it is caught.
2. Take some time apart and respect each other’s boundaries: this is not the
best time to remain friends. If possible, try to avoid any form of contact with
this person. Just give each other that needed space to reevaluate your
decision, conclude on its rationality And then think of what new step is
needed. Relocate if you have to or get a new job or just take your mind off reconnecting at this point.
3. Prioritize Self-Care : this is actually the best time to build that body, buy
those skin care products, work on your acne and grow those muscles. Invest
in amazing wears and perfumes, dress to be complimented, intern at new jobs
and positions, learn new skills, volunteer if you need to. This Is the best time
to do everything that works to improve your well-being as a person.
4. Do things you have always enjoyed: get busy enjoying your life doing
those amazing yet mentally stable and stimulating activities you’ve always
wanted to try. You could go for a vacation, Jet Skiing, Mountain Climbing,
Shopping with your friend group, explore the world and just laugh out loud at every given opportunity.
5. Revamp your space: mentally, there is this stagnancy that comes with
seeing everything the same way you’ve always had them. Now is the best
time to remodel your cubicle. Buy newer furnitures, change your tiles, repaint
your walls, reposition some objects, get some figurines and just revamp your
entire space most especially your bedroom since it was an harbor of memories.
6. Seek professional help if you need to: moving on is easier for some than
others and if you find yourself crying to bed every night six months after the
breakup, you sure do need to see a therapist and pour your heart out as this
professional would guide you on better ways to work things out.
7. Move closer to God : as funny as it sounds, it does actually work.
Whatever supreme being you believe in this context is God. Find ways and
reasons to go back and dedicatedly rely on this being.
8. Open up to New people: after you must have healed, Yes after you are
sure there is no form of bitterness, hurt or hatred within you towards
everyone that looks like this individual, you should open up to newer people, well vetted with better intentions
